Monday, November 23, 2009

Is there a future for relations at a distance?

You moved to another city for work or for study at a prestigious university? Fled loved one, and now among you vast distances? Well, do not worry, now you have to start relationships at a distance. Of course, if you really want.

I want it!

Naturally, you will not be easy. But there are several things that will help save a relationship, as between you and the beloved of hundreds of kilometers.

1. Find foothold

You start a new life as a student or as a new employee. Such major life events is akin to relocate to a new planet. At first, all you will find chuzhym, unfamiliar: and those around you, and himself a new city. This is especially difficult when there is no close loved one who could support you in difficult times. It is very important to find a foothold and get on their feet, find their place in life. Only then can we begin to think about how to maintain relationships.

2. Find friends

Even if all your thoughts now about the lover with whom you are separated by hundreds, thousands of kilometers, is worth making an effort and start talking with new people. Of course, not be carried away and immediately familiarize themselves with all the running, but need to make friends with at least a few people. You especially lucky if they too would be "novices", and adapt to new environment, you can together. <
3. Acquire speechless

It is natural to feel depressed if you miss on its halves, but do not close on people, otherwise you may become even worse. Tell us about your experiences, and you will feel better: you'll see what prospects there are in your relationship. Help friends and can speak his girlfriend, parents, psychologists, and even colleagues.

This is love?

Now, when you do not close and do not spend all their time together, it is worth considering that if you do not exaggerate the importance of these relations. Maybe the rose-colored glasses broken, and it turns out that with the current partner you spend time in vain.

Of course, the relationship at a distance and may exacerbate your feelings, to make relationships more delicate. But that requires trust and substantial cost for short trips to each other. Decide whether to continue the relationship, only you, but do not forget to find out what your partner feels.

What are you doing this Friday?

Now, when you spend your free time apart, consider how you use the time spent together. For example, your favorite weekend preferred to sit at the TV, it's senseless clicking the remote control, and you want to travel around the country. Or is it all right? Now you have time to think about it and find a compromise for the future.

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Do not build all future plans for the weekend of your life: perhaps your attitude would change drastically, and some time you will see each other often. It is important to remember that their thoughts and emotions should not hide from the partner, he must know all changes in your feelings. Nobody will give you a guarantee that your relationship survive the separation, but mutual honesty will help you cope with difficulties.

Enough! I do not need!

Do not be fooled: the idea that your partner is on the other end of the world, might be to far. But do not think that now you can be windy, but he does not know it. Over deception certainly come a sense of guilt and regret, and even worse would be if the deception ever be revealed.

1. Speak honest

If you are not sure that will be faithful - better to leave immediately. Even before you loudly swore eternal love, still do not make out once said the words the reason you do not need to maintain relationships.

2. Be a good girl

There is no need to tell more about your new life, if you decide to separate. Especially if you remain faithful to the gap you still failed. Admit that you need to leave and not go into unnecessary details of your current personal life, there is no need to do the former beloved hurt.

3. Be strong

Part is not always easy. Gap very few people survive easily, and help to overcome this difficult period can only honesty and respect for each other. The only way you can maintain friendly relations. Think about where and when the report of its decision. Do not invite ex-lover to visit only in order to say that he was the former.
Relationship at a distance - a complicated thing, and decided on a cost only, think carefully about all the pluses and minuses. On the other hand, the development of Internet communications makes it possible not only to communicate, and even see each other. Our ancestors such opportunities could not boast. For example, if in love help create a program Skype, which allows to see the talking during the interactive discussion.

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